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10 Months Later. Here's Where I Am

By The Artful Woman
 It's hard to believe it's been 10 months since my accident. It's been quite a journey. I went from the trauma unit to an acute care hospital, connected to more life support machines than I could count. One by one, I was able to come off each machine until I was finally discharged at the end of December. When I got home, I spent about a month in bed. I couldn't do much for myself and had to slowly rebuild my strength. I started going to the gym once a week, and after a couple of months I was finally able to get a caretaker who could take me two or three times a week. That's when I really started making progress. But recovery hasn't been a straight line. My amputated leg had complication after complication, and the wounds wouldn't heal for months. Even though I received my prosthetic leg on February 10, I couldn't safely wear it until the very end of April because the wounds wouldn't close. Just when I started walking with my prosthetic at the gym, I ...
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Breaking Free From Comparison: Finding Your Own Path to Fulfillment

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By The Artful Woman

 



Do you ever find yourself watching others, perhaps those you deem less capable, enjoying greater success or material possessions, and wonder... 'Why not me?

The sting of comparison. The weight of feeling overlooked. The frustration of watching others attain what seems so out of reach. It's a familiar ache, a question that lingers: 'Why not me?' In this post, we'll explore the roots of this feeling and, more importantly, how to transform it into a catalyst for your own growth and fulfillment.

  • Perceived Unfairness:

  • A sense that life is not just or equitable.

  • A feeling that rewards are not distributed based on merit.

  • Comparison and Envy:

  • A tendency to compare your own circumstances to those of others.

  • Feelings of envy or resentment towards those who seem to have more.

  • Questioning Your Own Worth:

  • A sense of questioning your own value or deservingness.

  • A feeling that you are being overlooked or undervalued.

  • Frustration with the System:

  • A feeling that the world is not fair, and that there are other factors besides intelligence that contribute to success.

  • A feeling of lack of control:

  • A sense that your own hard work is not paying off.

It's important to acknowledge that these feelings are valid. However, dwelling on them can be detrimental to your own well-being. Here are some things to consider:

  • Redefining "Success":

  • Consider that "success" is subjective and multifaceted. Material possessions are only one aspect.

  • Focus on your own values and what truly matters to you.

  • Focusing on Your Own Path:

  • Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own growth and progress.

  • Set goals for yourself and celebrate your own achievements.

  • Practicing Gratitude:

  • Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for the good things in your life.

  • This can shift your focus from what you lack to what you have.

  • Understanding External Factors:

  • Recognize that factors beyond intelligence, such as privilege, connections, and luck, can play a significant role in people's lives.

  • Recognize that you do not see the whole picture of other peoples lives.

  • Controlling What You Can:

  • Focus on the things that you can control, your actions, your reactions, and your mindset. 

It is valid to have those feelings, but it is important to not let them control your life.

Ready to break free from the 'Why not me?' mindset and cultivate a life of purpose and abundance?
At Artful Living Coaching, I provide personalized mindset coaching to help you rewrite your story and unlock your full potential.
Contact me today to schedule a free consultation and begin your transformative journey.
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