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A 3-Step Daily Reset for Safety, Fear Rewiring & Emotional Healing After Trauma

By The Artful Woman
After surviving a stroke and a catastrophic accident, I’ve had to rebuild not just my body—but my nervous system, my thoughts, and my sense of safety in the world. At the very least, I dedicate 10 minutes each morning to anchoring my body in safety. From there, I’ve developed a simple 3-step daily reset that helps me move through fear, regulate my thoughts, and gently rewire how I relate to uncertainty, pain, and hope. This is not about perfection. It’s about returning to yourself, over and over again, especially after trauma. 1. Morning Safety Anchor (2 minutes) I place my hand on my heart and breathe: inhale for 4, hold for 2, exhale for 6. I say: “In this moment, I am safe.” This helps ground my nervous system and even supports calming phantom pain when it shows up. 2. Midday Thought Flip (30 seconds at a time) When fear starts to spiral into “what if” scenarios, I pause. Instead of feeding the fear, I answer it gently: “And if it happens, I’ll handle it. What if it goes right inst...
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Breaking Free From Comparison: Finding Your Own Path to Fulfillment

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By The Artful Woman

 



Do you ever find yourself watching others, perhaps those you deem less capable, enjoying greater success or material possessions, and wonder... 'Why not me?

The sting of comparison. The weight of feeling overlooked. The frustration of watching others attain what seems so out of reach. It's a familiar ache, a question that lingers: 'Why not me?' In this post, we'll explore the roots of this feeling and, more importantly, how to transform it into a catalyst for your own growth and fulfillment.

  • Perceived Unfairness:

  • A sense that life is not just or equitable.

  • A feeling that rewards are not distributed based on merit.

  • Comparison and Envy:

  • A tendency to compare your own circumstances to those of others.

  • Feelings of envy or resentment towards those who seem to have more.

  • Questioning Your Own Worth:

  • A sense of questioning your own value or deservingness.

  • A feeling that you are being overlooked or undervalued.

  • Frustration with the System:

  • A feeling that the world is not fair, and that there are other factors besides intelligence that contribute to success.

  • A feeling of lack of control:

  • A sense that your own hard work is not paying off.

It's important to acknowledge that these feelings are valid. However, dwelling on them can be detrimental to your own well-being. Here are some things to consider:

  • Redefining "Success":

  • Consider that "success" is subjective and multifaceted. Material possessions are only one aspect.

  • Focus on your own values and what truly matters to you.

  • Focusing on Your Own Path:

  • Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own growth and progress.

  • Set goals for yourself and celebrate your own achievements.

  • Practicing Gratitude:

  • Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for the good things in your life.

  • This can shift your focus from what you lack to what you have.

  • Understanding External Factors:

  • Recognize that factors beyond intelligence, such as privilege, connections, and luck, can play a significant role in people's lives.

  • Recognize that you do not see the whole picture of other peoples lives.

  • Controlling What You Can:

  • Focus on the things that you can control, your actions, your reactions, and your mindset. 

It is valid to have those feelings, but it is important to not let them control your life.

Ready to break free from the 'Why not me?' mindset and cultivate a life of purpose and abundance?
At Artful Living Coaching, I provide personalized mindset coaching to help you rewrite your story and unlock your full potential.
Contact me today to schedule a free consultation and begin your transformative journey.
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