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Walking the Edge: My Journey as an Empath Learning to Protect, Heal, and Shine

By The Artful Woman
For as long as I can remember, I’ve sensed things others couldn’t. Energies, presences, whispers from another realm—all mixed into the fabric of my everyday life. It wasn’t until much later that I understood why: I’m an empath. Being an empath means I absorb emotions and energies around me, sometimes to the point where it feels overwhelming. Negative energies, draining people—what I call “energy vampires” or “soul snatchers”—can knock me off balance if I’m not careful. For a long time, this sensitivity felt like a curse. But now, I see it as a gift—a calling. Encounters Beyond the Veil Throughout my life, I’ve had moments that defy logic. One night driving past a cemetery, I saw a pink orb-like form linger around my car. It felt playful and curious, not frightening—a gentle energy reaching out across the veil. But it wasn’t one of my guardian angels. I’ve felt their presence in other ways, and this orb was something else—something that just passed through, maybe just drawn to my l...
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The Power of Pain and Pleasure: Unlocking Motivation for Change

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By The Artful Woman

 


Have you ever wondered why some people push through challenges while others stay stuck in the same patterns? The answer lies in one of the most fundamental principles of human psychology—the Pain-Pleasure Principle. This principle states that we are driven by two primary forces: the desire to avoid pain and the pursuit of pleasure. Whether we realize it or not, every decision we make is influenced by these two motivators.

Understanding how this works is key to transforming your mindset, breaking through resistance, and achieving your goals. It’s a concept deeply rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), and neurolinguistic programming (NLP)—all of which use this principle to reshape behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs.

How Pain and Pleasure Shape Your Life

Every action you take is either moving you toward pleasure or away from pain.

  • You exercise because you want to feel strong and energized (pleasure) or to avoid health problems (pain).
  • You stay in a job you dislike because you fear financial instability (pain) rather than pursuing a passion (pleasure).
  • You delay a project because you associate it with stress (pain) rather than focusing on the sense of accomplishment (pleasure).

The key to personal growth is learning how to rewire your brain to associate positive change with pleasure rather than pain.

Applying the Pain-Pleasure Principle in Coaching

As a mindset coach, I help clients recognize the subconscious motivations that hold them back. By reframing pain and pleasure, we can:

  • Shift limiting beliefs: Replace the fear of failure with the excitement of success.
  • Overcome resistance: Identify the perceived "pain" of change and reframe it into a source of empowerment.
  • Create lasting motivation: Link positive habits to pleasure while associating unhealthy behaviors with pain.

NLP techniques, such as anchoring, reframing, and visualization, are powerful tools for reinforcing these shifts. By practicing these methods, you can break free from fear-based decision-making and step into a mindset of empowerment.

How NLP Helps Rewire Your Brain for Success

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a powerful tool that helps shift limiting beliefs and patterns by rewiring how the brain interprets pain and pleasure. It uses specific techniques to reshape perception, break negative cycles, and create lasting change.

Here’s a glimpse into how NLP works:

  • Submodalities: By adjusting the way we see, hear, and feel experiences in our mind, NLP helps reduce the intensity of negative emotions while amplifying motivation.
  • Anchoring: A technique that connects positive emotions to specific triggers, allowing you to access confidence, calmness, or motivation on demand.
  • Future Pacing: Mentally rehearsing success helps strengthen commitment and makes achieving goals feel inevitable.
  • Reframing: Changing the meaning of past experiences to transform fear into opportunity and failure into growth.

With NLP, you can train your brain to embrace change, overcome fear, and create a mindset that attracts success.

Are You Ready to Break Through?

If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same patterns, I can help you reprogram your mind, shift your perspective, and create a life driven by confidence, not fear. Through NLP and mindset coaching, we’ll work together to turn pain into power and fear into fuel.

✨ Book a free clarity call with me today to take control of your future! ✨ Artful Living Coaching

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