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So… Is Your Higher Self the Same as Source?

By The Artful Woman
  Not exactly. Think of it like this: Source is the origin —pure consciousness, God/Goddess/Divine Light, whatever you want to call it. It’s the everything-and-nothing energy from which all things come. Your Higher Self is your personal bridge to Source. It’s your soul in its purest form , untainted by fear, ego, or human distortion. Your Higher Self is you , just on the zoomed-out level —the version of you that remembers the full story, all lifetimes, all lessons, all missions. So: Source is the sun. Your Higher Self is the sunbeam that still holds its essence but is uniquely you . Is Your Higher Self Your Soul? Pretty much— but here's the nuance: Your soul is eternal. It’s the part of you that has lived countless lives. Your Higher Self is like the fully awakened version of your soul —the one not currently squeezed into a human body trying to pay bills and avoid family drama. When you're in human form, you're kind of like the tip of the i...
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Embracing Your Idiosyncrasies While Letting Go of Perfectionism

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By The Artful Woman

Done Beats Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism and Embracing Progress

Perfectionism is often mistaken for a good trait—a sign of high standards, ambition, and excellence. But in reality, it can be a silent thief of progress, success, and happiness. Many people struggle with the belief that if something isn’t done perfectly, it’s not worth doing at all. This mindset can lead to paralysis, procrastination, and missed opportunities.

On the other hand, we all have our little idiosyncrasies—those unique quirks and habits that make us who we are. They’re not inherently good or bad, but when combined with perfectionism, they can reinforce limiting beliefs that keep us stuck.

The Difference Between Idiosyncrasies and Perfectionism

Understanding the difference between idiosyncrasies and perfectionism can help us see where we may be holding ourselves back. Here’s a breakdown:

FeatureIdiosyncrasiesPerfectionism
FocusUnique habits & mannerismsFlawlessness & high standards
NatureSubconscious, ingrainedConscious, intentional
ImpactEndearing, quirkyAnxiety, stress, self-criticism
MotivationNot outcome-drivenFear of failure, need for approval
AcceptanceGenerally acceptedOften leads to self-criticism

Idiosyncrasies are the little things that make us unique—like always using the same pen when writing or needing background noise to concentrate. Perfectionism, however, is an internal pressure to meet impossible standards, often leading to frustration and inaction.

Done Beats Perfect: My Journey to Overcoming Perfectionism

One of the most valuable phrases I learned last year was “done beats perfect.” This simple mindset shift changed everything for me. My perfectionism had led me to paralysis many times because I had specific ideas about how things should be done. If I couldn’t do something exactly how I envisioned it—or if I didn’t have the time to do it just right—I wouldn’t do it at all.

This mindset kept me stuck. Instead of making progress, I was waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect conditions, the perfect execution. And that moment never came.

So, I started taking baby steps. Instead of waiting for the perfect time, I just did a little bit of what needed to be done. I let go of the expectation that everything had to be flawless, and instead, I focused on moving forward—however imperfectly.

Through this process, I also realized that some of my little quirks were actually contributing to my paralysis. While they made me me, they were also keeping me from achieving my goals. Learning to get past them has been liberating, and the freedom of making progress, rather than being stuck in analysis paralysis, has been life-changing.

How You Can Break Free from Perfectionism

If perfectionism has been holding you back, here are some steps to help you move forward:

  1. Practice Self-Compassion – Be kind to yourself. Mistakes don’t define you, and perfection isn’t the goal—progress is.

  2. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection – Celebrate small wins and remind yourself that forward movement is better than being stuck.

  3. Embrace Imperfection – Life isn’t perfect, and that’s okay! The more you allow yourself to be imperfect, the more you’ll get done.

  4. Experiment and Iterate – Instead of seeing mistakes as failures, view them as learning opportunities. Every step forward is a chance to refine and improve.

  5. Remember Your Why – What’s more important—getting it perfect or getting it done? Keep your bigger goals in mind, and don’t let perfectionism rob you of success.

Ready to Overcome Perfectionism?

If you’ve been struggling with perfectionism and find yourself stuck in a cycle of procrastination and self-criticism, you’re not alone. I’ve been there, and I know how overwhelming it can feel. The good news? You can break free from perfectionism and start making meaningful progress in your life.

At Artful Living Coaching, I help people just like you overcome perfectionism, let go of unrealistic expectations, and create a life of ease, confidence, and success. If you're ready to take control and start moving forward, reach out today!

Visit me at ArtfulLivingCoaching.com to schedule a consultation and take your first step toward freedom from perfectionism!

Remember: done beats perfect, every time. Let’s start making progress—together!


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