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Beauty, Brains & Boundaries

By The Artful Woman
    Why Worthy Women Are Done Apologizing for Wanting More As a young girl, I was an international model—traveling the world, young, beautiful, and financially independent. I was naturally drawn to powerful, intelligent, and successful men—not because I needed anything from them, but because I admired ambition. I respected men who could build something for themselves, because I was already building something for myself. But because I was beautiful, I was labeled. Assumed. Dismissed. "Gold digger" that type of judgment made me stay away from the very type of man I was genuinely aligned with. I didn’t want to be misunderstood. So I shrunk my desires and played it safe. And for that, I paid the price. As I got older, that stigma stuck. I found myself in a pattern of relationships with users, losers, and opportunists—men who took and took and gave nothing back. Men who drained my spirit, my finances, my peace. And I let it happen, because somewhere deep down, I still felt like I ...
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Surrender Is the New Power

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By The Artful Woman



I’ve been sitting with this idea of surrender lately.

Not the “throw your hands in the air” kind of surrender.
Not the “give up because it’s too hard” kind.
But the holy, grounded, soul-level kind of surrender—
the kind that says:
“I trust something bigger than me is guiding this.”

I Used to Know How to Surrender

When my dad died, I broke.

I didn’t know how to cope with the loss, so I did what so many do—I fell into a bottle and tried to drink my way through the grief. I wasn’t an alcoholic. I was human. Hurting. Numb.

And then one day, I found myself in church.
A song came on—a Christian song with the words:
“Deeply broken. Wholly surrendered.”

And something in me cracked wide open.
I sang along through tears. And in that moment, I didn’t just sing the words—
I became them.

Deeply broken. Wholly surrendered.
I let go of what I could never control.

And from that moment on, life slowly started to meet me with grace.

But Somewhere Along the Way, I Took It Back

Over time, I tried to manage everything again:
My healing. My success. My purpose. My money.

And honestly? That gets exhausting.

I started noticing how much energy I was giving to things I couldn’t fix in the moment.
I was thinking too much about how it was all going to work out…
and not enough about trusting that it would.

That’s when I started exploring surrender again.

My Body Remembers What I Tried to Forget

During a Dr. Joe Dispenza meditation this morning—the one where you’re supposed to feel your body in space (yes, that one)—an old wound came up.
Not randomly. Spirit knows when we’re ready.

I remembered a toxic relationship.
A man who once held control over me.
Someone I now consider a friend—not because he changed,
but because I reclaimed my power.

And it hit me:

I still have fears that if things fall apart financially, I might have to go back to a situation that feels like a trap.
But it’s not just that.
It’s fear of being controlled.
Fear of not being safe.
Fear rooted in trauma I’ve survived.

I’ve been in a shootout in Italy.
I’ve witnessed people being raped and robbed at knifepoint.
I’ve seen things. I’ve held things.
And I’ve carried them quietly for far too long.

That’s what I’m surrendering now.
Not just one fear, but all the things that don’t serve me.
I’m handing them over—one by one—as they come up.

Because I can’t carry them anymore.
Because they don’t belong in the life I’m building.
Because I’m saying yes to the greater good.

The Next Step Is Surrender

So here I am again.
Not trying to manifest harder.
Not trying to heal faster.
Not even trying to figure it all out.

I’m just surrendering.

“I surrender what I can’t control.
I trust that life is unfolding in my favor.
I open my hands to receive what’s truly mine.”

That’s my new affirmation.
If you need one, feel free to borrow it.

And if you’re tired—tired of trying so hard to manifest, to heal, to find clarity—maybe it’s time for you to let go too.

Not because you’re giving up.
But because you’re finally getting out of your own way.

Ready to Surrender and Start Living Artfully?


If this message speaks to something deep inside you—
 if you're tired of carrying fears, traumas, and burdens that were never meant to be yours—
 if you're ready to let go of control, pain, and patterns that no longer serve you...
Then this is your invitation.
Artful Living Coaching isn’t just about pretty practices or curated healing.
 It’s about the real work—the surrender, the clarity, the power of choosing peace.
 It’s about coming home to yourself and finally being free.
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